I was thinking about my last post and couldn't believe the one story I forgot to mention so I will write about it here today. It may actually top the cherry cock story.
My son was turning nine last summer and wanted to have a few friends over for a sleep over. So we planned a party, brought three boys home with us one evening after football camp and after showers, pizza, cake and ice cream they decided to watch a movie. My son had the Transformer movie and that is what they all agreed to watch. Now I knew the movie was PG-13 yet I had seen it several times and didn't recall anything real bad in it so I let them watch it.
There was one place in the movie that was probably inappropriate for nine year old boys to watch and of course all of them caught it. In the movie a teenage boy refuses to open the door to his bedroom and let his parents in. When his parents finally do get in his mother asks him if he was masturbating. One of my son's friends asked, 'What does masturbating mean?" Of course I froze. I mean how do I answer that? These aren't my kids and I'm the horrible parent that let them watch this movie. As I thought about how to answer that question not one but two of the boys beat me to it. They said it's when you sit criss cross applesauce with your hands in the air and say, "Ohm".
Whew, I thought, they think it means meditation!! I dodged a bullet there unless of course any of them have parents or family members who do meditate. Ha! I did tell their parents just in case. :)
I realize I am the worst at explaining awkward things like that to my kids. I want them to stay little and not learn about that sort of stuff but it is inevitable and I better start being straight forward with them, just not when they have friends over!
Monday, February 28, 2011
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
A Quiet Day
Last night as I was fixing supper, washing dishes, sweeping the floor and changing batches of laundry my three year old was standing with the refrigerator door open screaming because I wouldn't let him have a snack ten minutes before supper, my nine year old was refusing to do his homework and my eleven year old was asking for help with her homework. At that very moment I couldn't help but think about being somewhere else. I was tired after a long day of working and doing mom chores and now I was still busy and I just wanted some quiet time.
I thought about walking barefoot on a sandy beach. I could feel the powdery sand between my toes and a cool breeze blowing through my hair. The sun was bright and I felt it's warmth on my back. I quickly snapped back to reality at the smell of burning meat. I finished browning my burger and added a few more ingredients to the pot for chili and then I was thinking about a day shopping. I thought it would be fun to get up in the morning, go shopping, stop for a sit down lunch with a friend, maybe get a massage, see a movie and come home to a clean house and well behaved children with slicked down hair and clean shirts on. They'd greet me at the door, "Hello mother, we do hope you had a wonderful outing."
I'm laughing out loud thinking of that because typically when I do get a day away I come home to a messy house, three children trying to talk to me at once, one of them will have food on his face, another will have either wore yet another whole in the knee of his jeans or spilled something on his shirt at lunch that day.
The thing is we all deserve a quiet day now and then and we shouldn't feel guilty for taking them. It's ironic how now we look forward to a quiet day here and there to break up the insane ones and one day we'll be looking forward to having them all come home for an insane day to break up the quiet ones.
I think we should all try to schedule a quiet day in the near future. Write down what you'd like to do or where you'd like to go. Plan it out to make it the most refreshing and enjoyable for you. If we can get a break now and then it will make us better mother's and don't our children deserve that. You are taking a break from your kids FOR your kids.
I've told myself for months and months that one of these days I'm just going to sit home by myself and watch movies all day and eat all my favorite foods. Or I'd love to sit home and read all day and eat my favorite foods. Well, I know my day would consist of being home alone and eating.
Arranging a bowl of flowers in the morning can give a sense of quiet in a crowded day - like writing a poem or saying a prayer.
Anne Marrow Lindbergh
I thought about walking barefoot on a sandy beach. I could feel the powdery sand between my toes and a cool breeze blowing through my hair. The sun was bright and I felt it's warmth on my back. I quickly snapped back to reality at the smell of burning meat. I finished browning my burger and added a few more ingredients to the pot for chili and then I was thinking about a day shopping. I thought it would be fun to get up in the morning, go shopping, stop for a sit down lunch with a friend, maybe get a massage, see a movie and come home to a clean house and well behaved children with slicked down hair and clean shirts on. They'd greet me at the door, "Hello mother, we do hope you had a wonderful outing."
I'm laughing out loud thinking of that because typically when I do get a day away I come home to a messy house, three children trying to talk to me at once, one of them will have food on his face, another will have either wore yet another whole in the knee of his jeans or spilled something on his shirt at lunch that day.
The thing is we all deserve a quiet day now and then and we shouldn't feel guilty for taking them. It's ironic how now we look forward to a quiet day here and there to break up the insane ones and one day we'll be looking forward to having them all come home for an insane day to break up the quiet ones.
I think we should all try to schedule a quiet day in the near future. Write down what you'd like to do or where you'd like to go. Plan it out to make it the most refreshing and enjoyable for you. If we can get a break now and then it will make us better mother's and don't our children deserve that. You are taking a break from your kids FOR your kids.
I've told myself for months and months that one of these days I'm just going to sit home by myself and watch movies all day and eat all my favorite foods. Or I'd love to sit home and read all day and eat my favorite foods. Well, I know my day would consist of being home alone and eating.
Arranging a bowl of flowers in the morning can give a sense of quiet in a crowded day - like writing a poem or saying a prayer.
Anne Marrow Lindbergh
Sunday, February 20, 2011
The Joys of Exercise
Why is it so hard to exercise? I really don't mind exercising I can just think of ten million other things that need to be done and so that's why I didn't do it. I've always had good intentions to exercise more, eat healthier and to take vitamins and supplements. And just like a New Year's resolution my good intentions lasted a short while and I was back in my old ways. When it comes to exercising and eating healthier I'm a talker and not a doer. This drives my husband absolutely nuts. He keeps telling me that if I want something bad enough then I'll stop making excuses and do it, blah, blah, blah. I always felt like I wanted it bad enough but just didn't have time. It wasn't until I was on Face book stalking a friend that I saw she had a picture of herself in a bikini mixed in her photos. Someone had commented to her on how great she looked and she replied, "Thanks, I've worked really hard!" You know what she had worked really hard, she biked, ran, lifted weights. She found time to exercise daily despite the fact that she was a stay-at-home mom with two young boys.
I told myself that if she could do it than I could do it. I started with a fun workout video three times a week and started feeling better. My best friend found out and for my birthday bought me the same workout DVD she wanted to use and we decided we'd each do it five days a week on our own time. Now I'm being held accountable for my actions and I don't want to disappoint her by not working out a day so I get up a half an hour earlier than normal and do my 35 minutes work-out video five times a week. I feel so much better and am glad that I have support in doing it. It's fun because we can talk about the exercises and the people on the video. I hope that we continue supporting each other in our quest to be healthier. We both want to feel good and have more energy to chase after our children. We both have three children and we both run businesses from our homes.
Now that I enjoy my workouts and have the energy to do more I need to figure out a way to eat healthier. I know what foods I'd like to eat but unfortunately my family are super picky eaters. Well now that sounds like another excuse. I know once I start eating healthier I'll feel even better and want to continue to eat better. It's just starting to eat healthier that is the problem. I love sweets, salty snacks and pretty much all foods that are bad for you. I find fruits and vegetables boring and need to figure out a way to make them more attractive to me. Ah, what would a mom do to get her kids to eat fruits and vegetables??? douse them in cheese, ranch or chocolate? I think I can handle that.
Fitness - if it came in a bottle, everybody would have a great body. ~Cher
I told myself that if she could do it than I could do it. I started with a fun workout video three times a week and started feeling better. My best friend found out and for my birthday bought me the same workout DVD she wanted to use and we decided we'd each do it five days a week on our own time. Now I'm being held accountable for my actions and I don't want to disappoint her by not working out a day so I get up a half an hour earlier than normal and do my 35 minutes work-out video five times a week. I feel so much better and am glad that I have support in doing it. It's fun because we can talk about the exercises and the people on the video. I hope that we continue supporting each other in our quest to be healthier. We both want to feel good and have more energy to chase after our children. We both have three children and we both run businesses from our homes.
Now that I enjoy my workouts and have the energy to do more I need to figure out a way to eat healthier. I know what foods I'd like to eat but unfortunately my family are super picky eaters. Well now that sounds like another excuse. I know once I start eating healthier I'll feel even better and want to continue to eat better. It's just starting to eat healthier that is the problem. I love sweets, salty snacks and pretty much all foods that are bad for you. I find fruits and vegetables boring and need to figure out a way to make them more attractive to me. Ah, what would a mom do to get her kids to eat fruits and vegetables??? douse them in cheese, ranch or chocolate? I think I can handle that.
Fitness - if it came in a bottle, everybody would have a great body. ~Cher
Friday, February 18, 2011
Sleep More Sleep
It's two in the morning and I am toasty warm in my bed. My sheets feel like velvet against my skin and I imagine my pillow and mattress are fluffy white clouds. I am at peace in my soft comfortable bed so my lips curl into a smile. My eyes are still closed because I am still asleep, well at least I was asleep until a small child crawls in to bed with me. "Good morning, Mom. I'm happy today," he says. I barely open my eyes as I muster the strength to scoot over and help him under the covers. I'm still comfortable and I'm still tired. A few seconds go by and my three year old son moves, gets comfortable, moves again, his hand falls against my face, his knee is digging into my rib and his foot is on top of my leg. I am fully awake now and realize my son has crawled in bed with my husband and I. I sigh, throw the covers back and carrying my fifty pound son back to his room. I cover him up, kiss him good night and then hurry to crawl back into my pocket of warmth.
I have come to the realization that I simply am not meant to sleep. None of my children require the sleep my friends speak of. I have friends who lay their kids down at seven at night and they sleep until seven in the morning never stirring once in the night. My children on the other hand go to bed at nine are awake at two and again at six for the day. My older two children didn't sleep consistently through the night or sleep later than six until they reached kindergarten and so now instead of wishing time away for my youngest to reach kindergarten age I am trying, the operative word being trying, to cherish the time that a small child wants to crawl in to bed with me in the early morning hours to snuggle. In a few short years I will no longer have a small cuddly child in my home because he will grow into a strapping young kindergartner who will hopefully being sleeping through the night and sleeping in a bit longer than six.
Sleep deprivation seems to be a common side effect of motherhood and one I wish I could get used to. I am one of those people that require my eight hours of recharging a night to function, my husband on the other hand could survive on five hours a night. So I guess now you know where my children get it. They have inherited their father's requirement for little sleep.
As I write this my eleven year old daughter is having her slumber party and they like totally need the laptop to look something up online so I must call it a night. It's 9:30 p.m. and my three year old just feel asleep. My nine year old is talking my ear off about how royalty works...if the king dies who inherits the crown? Strange what this kids come up with. I think I'm going to go lie on my comfy couch and rest. I know that maybe tomorrow I can take a nap.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. ~Leo J. Burke
I have come to the realization that I simply am not meant to sleep. None of my children require the sleep my friends speak of. I have friends who lay their kids down at seven at night and they sleep until seven in the morning never stirring once in the night. My children on the other hand go to bed at nine are awake at two and again at six for the day. My older two children didn't sleep consistently through the night or sleep later than six until they reached kindergarten and so now instead of wishing time away for my youngest to reach kindergarten age I am trying, the operative word being trying, to cherish the time that a small child wants to crawl in to bed with me in the early morning hours to snuggle. In a few short years I will no longer have a small cuddly child in my home because he will grow into a strapping young kindergartner who will hopefully being sleeping through the night and sleeping in a bit longer than six.
Sleep deprivation seems to be a common side effect of motherhood and one I wish I could get used to. I am one of those people that require my eight hours of recharging a night to function, my husband on the other hand could survive on five hours a night. So I guess now you know where my children get it. They have inherited their father's requirement for little sleep.
As I write this my eleven year old daughter is having her slumber party and they like totally need the laptop to look something up online so I must call it a night. It's 9:30 p.m. and my three year old just feel asleep. My nine year old is talking my ear off about how royalty works...if the king dies who inherits the crown? Strange what this kids come up with. I think I'm going to go lie on my comfy couch and rest. I know that maybe tomorrow I can take a nap.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. ~Leo J. Burke
Thursday, February 17, 2011
It's Okay Girlfriends
Okay so here is where ALL the honesty comes out. I have been blessed by a wonderful husband, beautiful children, a fun and supportive family of parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, niece, nephews, grandparents and in-laws and last but NOT least my chosen family of girlfriends. I think every mother needs her girlfriends for support, for friendship and for laughter.
I have great friends who are mothers and who I can share with, laugh with and realize that we are all doing our best and that is okay!
So raise your hand, Who has fed their kids cold cereal for supper because you didn't feel like making a meal? It's Okay!
Who has made their child wear a pre-worn shirt or pair of pants or possibly dirty socks to school because they had gotten behind on the laundry? It's Okay!
Who has had to get up in the middle of the night to remove a kids sheets because they peed the bed and was so tired that you either, just laid a blanket on the bed for them to sleep on, made them sleep on the couch or made them sleep on the floor because you didn't want to put clean sheets on their bed at that hour? It's Okay!
Who has let their child go to bed at night without taking a bath after a hot sticky summer day and just figured you'd bath them and change their bedding the next day? It's Okay!
Who has bribed a child with candy, money or a toy so that they'd do what you wanted? It's Okay!
Who has let their kid eat food that's fallen on the ground? Okay, I'll eat food that's fallen on the ground. Once I even ate a Casey's doughnut that I dropped in the parking lot. Yes I did and it was delicious!
Who has let their child do something even though you told them no but you were sick of listening to them whine? It's Okay, as long as it doesn't happen often.
Who has ignored their child because you were watching a really good show? It's Okay, if it doesn't happen often. If it does maybe you should tape your show and watch it after your kids are in bed.
Who has had the false impression that they could actually get a lot done with their kids at home and ended up screaming in frustration because you didn't get your To Do List accomplished? It's Okay!
Who has told their child that when it rains it's God crying because of something they did? Okay so that is one I just made up...It came from Deep Thoughts by Jack Handy.
Talking to other mothers and friends about the joys and stresses of motherhood is good for the mind, body and soul. You are all in this together and if you can make each other laugh then I promise you'll get through the journey of motherhood together. The journey will last your whole life, once you're a mom there is no going back. So you may as well enjoy the ride.
"It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
I have great friends who are mothers and who I can share with, laugh with and realize that we are all doing our best and that is okay!
So raise your hand, Who has fed their kids cold cereal for supper because you didn't feel like making a meal? It's Okay!
Who has made their child wear a pre-worn shirt or pair of pants or possibly dirty socks to school because they had gotten behind on the laundry? It's Okay!
Who has had to get up in the middle of the night to remove a kids sheets because they peed the bed and was so tired that you either, just laid a blanket on the bed for them to sleep on, made them sleep on the couch or made them sleep on the floor because you didn't want to put clean sheets on their bed at that hour? It's Okay!
Who has let their child go to bed at night without taking a bath after a hot sticky summer day and just figured you'd bath them and change their bedding the next day? It's Okay!
Who has bribed a child with candy, money or a toy so that they'd do what you wanted? It's Okay!
Who has let their kid eat food that's fallen on the ground? Okay, I'll eat food that's fallen on the ground. Once I even ate a Casey's doughnut that I dropped in the parking lot. Yes I did and it was delicious!
Who has let their child do something even though you told them no but you were sick of listening to them whine? It's Okay, as long as it doesn't happen often.
Who has ignored their child because you were watching a really good show? It's Okay, if it doesn't happen often. If it does maybe you should tape your show and watch it after your kids are in bed.
Who has had the false impression that they could actually get a lot done with their kids at home and ended up screaming in frustration because you didn't get your To Do List accomplished? It's Okay!
Who has told their child that when it rains it's God crying because of something they did? Okay so that is one I just made up...It came from Deep Thoughts by Jack Handy.
Talking to other mothers and friends about the joys and stresses of motherhood is good for the mind, body and soul. You are all in this together and if you can make each other laugh then I promise you'll get through the journey of motherhood together. The journey will last your whole life, once you're a mom there is no going back. So you may as well enjoy the ride.
"It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Take the Time to Slow Down
So somebody already called me out on an error I made in my last post. I wrote, do your children know that they are the most important things in your life and what I meant to write was, do your children know that they are one of the most important things in your life. Tough crowd!! Ha! I'm just teasing, thanks for the comments, I really do appreciate them and hope that I receive more.
It seems in life that it is so easy to get caught up in the crazy day-to-day activities and stresses that we don't stop to just take a breath, sit back and look at what's really important. We are all busy, raising children can be super stressful and a lot of us would like to try to have our own lives as well.
I was recently watching The Talk when a famous actress told the audience about a mistake she had made that forced her to look at her life and to slow down. She was a super busy mom as we all are, she had her baby with her and was running errands and decided to stop into a Starbucks for some coffee. She thought to save time she'd leave the baby in the car and run in by herself since she was just going to be a minute. While in the coffee shop she ran into a friend, and then another friend and before she knew it several minutes had passed and she had totally forgotten about her baby locked inside her car. It wasn't until she heard a commotion just outside the coffee shop did she realize what she had done and raced out to her car. Several people had noticed the baby alone in the car and when they realized she was the mother they started calling her nasty names and saying awful things to her. She said that she started shaking and felt sick to her stomach. She felt guilty about what she had down and then one day she realized that if she was going to get anything good at all out of it she would turn it into a lesson learned by her and share it with other mothers so that they don't make the same mistake.
I will admit that I've been so consumed with the busyness of life that I've made a similar mistake. When my middle child was four years old I had a friend pick him up from preschool and drop him off at his babysitters house. I had so much going on that week that I forgot that I had told my babysitter that I was going to take that day off from work and that my son wouldn't be going there that day. Since she wasn't expecting my son that afternoon she took the rest of the daycare kids on a field trip. My friend dropped my son off at door, watched him go inside the house and left. Once my son realized his babysitter wasn't home he spent the next thirty minutes walking up and down the side-walk screaming for her. When the babysitter got home and found him she immediately called me and I felt sick. My stomach sank and I thought I was going to throw up. My husband and I picked up our son and had to go to our daughters elementary track and field day. I remember sitting on the bleachers shaking and sick to my stomach. I apologized to my son over and over and held him in my arms. I could I have been such a terrible mother? That evening my husband sat down with me and discussed the fact that I needed to slow down. I was commuting to work and trying to be their for my kids and for me it was not working. Less than two months later I started working from home.
I know many mothers who can handle an enormous amount of obligations with poise and grace. They are always organized and on top of things and do everything with a smile. I am not one of those mothers. I do the best I can but I do need help now and then and I'm not afraid to ask for it. My children have clean clothes, I make them decent meals, they have a comfy bed and they know they are loved.
I still think about the day that my son was left all alone and how it was all my fault. But it reminds me to continue to evaluate my time and to realize that if I'm getting too busy again that I need to slow down before it's too late.
Sometimes it's important to work for that pot of gold. But other times it's essential to take time off and to make sure that your most important decision in the day simply consists of choosing which color to slide down on the rainbow. ~Douglas Pagels, These Are the Gifts I'd Like to Give to You
It seems in life that it is so easy to get caught up in the crazy day-to-day activities and stresses that we don't stop to just take a breath, sit back and look at what's really important. We are all busy, raising children can be super stressful and a lot of us would like to try to have our own lives as well.
I was recently watching The Talk when a famous actress told the audience about a mistake she had made that forced her to look at her life and to slow down. She was a super busy mom as we all are, she had her baby with her and was running errands and decided to stop into a Starbucks for some coffee. She thought to save time she'd leave the baby in the car and run in by herself since she was just going to be a minute. While in the coffee shop she ran into a friend, and then another friend and before she knew it several minutes had passed and she had totally forgotten about her baby locked inside her car. It wasn't until she heard a commotion just outside the coffee shop did she realize what she had done and raced out to her car. Several people had noticed the baby alone in the car and when they realized she was the mother they started calling her nasty names and saying awful things to her. She said that she started shaking and felt sick to her stomach. She felt guilty about what she had down and then one day she realized that if she was going to get anything good at all out of it she would turn it into a lesson learned by her and share it with other mothers so that they don't make the same mistake.
I will admit that I've been so consumed with the busyness of life that I've made a similar mistake. When my middle child was four years old I had a friend pick him up from preschool and drop him off at his babysitters house. I had so much going on that week that I forgot that I had told my babysitter that I was going to take that day off from work and that my son wouldn't be going there that day. Since she wasn't expecting my son that afternoon she took the rest of the daycare kids on a field trip. My friend dropped my son off at door, watched him go inside the house and left. Once my son realized his babysitter wasn't home he spent the next thirty minutes walking up and down the side-walk screaming for her. When the babysitter got home and found him she immediately called me and I felt sick. My stomach sank and I thought I was going to throw up. My husband and I picked up our son and had to go to our daughters elementary track and field day. I remember sitting on the bleachers shaking and sick to my stomach. I apologized to my son over and over and held him in my arms. I could I have been such a terrible mother? That evening my husband sat down with me and discussed the fact that I needed to slow down. I was commuting to work and trying to be their for my kids and for me it was not working. Less than two months later I started working from home.
I know many mothers who can handle an enormous amount of obligations with poise and grace. They are always organized and on top of things and do everything with a smile. I am not one of those mothers. I do the best I can but I do need help now and then and I'm not afraid to ask for it. My children have clean clothes, I make them decent meals, they have a comfy bed and they know they are loved.
I still think about the day that my son was left all alone and how it was all my fault. But it reminds me to continue to evaluate my time and to realize that if I'm getting too busy again that I need to slow down before it's too late.
Sometimes it's important to work for that pot of gold. But other times it's essential to take time off and to make sure that your most important decision in the day simply consists of choosing which color to slide down on the rainbow. ~Douglas Pagels, These Are the Gifts I'd Like to Give to You
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Look within yourself to be a better Mom
I will write about the topic above but first if my adult ADD can kick in I must share this awesome website I found where you can create your own chocolate bar! It's called chocomize.com and this is how it works. First, choose what kind of chocolate you want milk, dark or white. Second, choose the type of ingredients who want to add like gummy bears, cookie dough, dried blueberries, bacon, white chips, peanut butter drops, toffee etc. They have over 100 ingredients who could add. I created five of these bars for my family for Valentine's Day and in typical fashion I ordered them too late so my family will be enjoying them later this week. ;)
Okay so back to the title: Look within yourself to be a better Mom
As mothers we hold high hopes for our children and we want children who can thrive. So here are some tips I've found:
1. Make sure your parenting reflects your high priority of raising your children. In other words do your children know that they are the most important thing in your life?
2. Imagine your children grown to teens or adults. What do you want their lives to look like? What qualities and traits do you believe will help them get to that place. For me this is scary. I am just trying to do the best job I can do as a mom and when they leave the house I hope and pray I gave them enough tools to become happy individuals who can contribute to society in a positive way.
3. I have read that we teach our children in three important ways: the first is by example, the second is by example and the third is by example. If you are reading this and thinking, "Wow, I think my children will turn out great." then good for you. If you are thinking, "Oh man my kids are so screwed." I assure you, you aren't alone. Ha! We are only human, we make mistakes, the important thing is that we learn from those mistakes, pick ourselves up and move on.
4. No endeavor is more important than raising children, yet it's easy to just try to get through it. Set aside time to think and plan big and little ways to reach your parenting goals. Plan game night once a week, or plan to spend individual time with each child during the month. It doesn't have to be a lot, every effort counts.
5. Commit to the fact that little that is worthwhile comes easy. Give your parenting the conviction, purpose and effort it deserves. I realize not everyone has time to meet on a regular basis with other mothers but I think my young mother's group has really helped me continue to do the best job I can. Everyone is so helpful and understanding. We all make some of the same mistakes and we are all learning from them. There is no such thing as a perfect mom and their is no such thing as a perfect child, just love, live and be happy.
When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. Sophia Loren
Okay so back to the title: Look within yourself to be a better Mom
As mothers we hold high hopes for our children and we want children who can thrive. So here are some tips I've found:
1. Make sure your parenting reflects your high priority of raising your children. In other words do your children know that they are the most important thing in your life?
2. Imagine your children grown to teens or adults. What do you want their lives to look like? What qualities and traits do you believe will help them get to that place. For me this is scary. I am just trying to do the best job I can do as a mom and when they leave the house I hope and pray I gave them enough tools to become happy individuals who can contribute to society in a positive way.
3. I have read that we teach our children in three important ways: the first is by example, the second is by example and the third is by example. If you are reading this and thinking, "Wow, I think my children will turn out great." then good for you. If you are thinking, "Oh man my kids are so screwed." I assure you, you aren't alone. Ha! We are only human, we make mistakes, the important thing is that we learn from those mistakes, pick ourselves up and move on.
4. No endeavor is more important than raising children, yet it's easy to just try to get through it. Set aside time to think and plan big and little ways to reach your parenting goals. Plan game night once a week, or plan to spend individual time with each child during the month. It doesn't have to be a lot, every effort counts.
5. Commit to the fact that little that is worthwhile comes easy. Give your parenting the conviction, purpose and effort it deserves. I realize not everyone has time to meet on a regular basis with other mothers but I think my young mother's group has really helped me continue to do the best job I can. Everyone is so helpful and understanding. We all make some of the same mistakes and we are all learning from them. There is no such thing as a perfect mom and their is no such thing as a perfect child, just love, live and be happy.
When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. Sophia Loren
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